Dr. Elaine Ducharme On Managing Feelings Of Anger

Thursday, December 3rd

Even before COVID Most normal people experienced anger a few times a week.  Currently more people are getting angry more often and with a greater intensity. Rates of DV are very high and also drug and ethos use and abuse.  Nothing wrong with the emotion of anger. It can be the stimulus for creative thinking and change. But what we do about our anger is important....functional or dysfunctional where the behaviors cause harm to others. Research suggests positive anger management involves 3 strategies or combinations of these strategies:

Relaxation. 

Identify what makes you angry and then use progressive relaxation techniques that help you focus on something very relaxing to reduce anger. You can't be really angry and calm at the same time

Cognitive therapy 

Helps people see alternative ways of viewing things and reacting to anger. A lot of ways we think when we are angry makes the situation worse. 

Skill development

Such as safer driving skills, better parenting skills better self care

People need to be willing to look at their behavior and want to change

And to manage our daily frustration and anger:
Try to identify when you are starting to ramp up
Talk about it rather than act on it and think before you talk
..being physical really helps
Use meditation Insight Timer
Limit use of alcohol
Eat well
Take a time out...even it it is to go into another room and drink a glass of water
Gratitude journal
Look for humor
Focus on the present

 

 

So much togetherness with no outlets, weather getting worse and increase use of ETOH DV is really ramping up.

So.

Have a safety plan for you and your kids...one is on my web page

Here are the numbers for help

 

Crisis text hotline TEXT HOME to 741741

THE NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE at 1-800-799-7233 

THE NATIONAL SEXUAL ASSAULT HOTLINE AT 1-800-656-4673 

THE NATIONAL TEEN DATING ABUSE HOTLINE AT 1-866-331-9474

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Elaine Ducharme Ph.D, ABPP
Board Certified in Clinical Psychology
Licensed Psychologist
17 Parker Terrace Ext
Glastonbury, CT 06033
Phone  860-633-8962
Fax      860-652-8823
drducharme@drelaineducharme.com  www.drelaineducharme.com

http://ctcollaborativedivorce.com/

 
00:07:51